EMDR Therapy

A Brain-Based Approach to Healing

EMDR is an evidence-based, brain-based therapy that helps people process and move through trauma and distressing memories, rather than simply talking about them.

EMDR is recommended in Australian clinical guidelines for the treatment of PTSD and is endorsed by the Australian Psychological Society, alongside leading international bodies including the World Health Organization.

EMDR - Your Questions, answered

EMDR can be hard to understand from the outside. If you're curious about how it works, what to expect, or whether it might be right for you, explore below.

  • EMDR works with how your brain stores difficult experiences. When something overwhelming happens, the memory can get frozen in the nervous system, still carrying the same emotional charge it had at the time. Your brain knows the event is over, but your body hasn't fully registered that yet.

    Using bilateral stimulation, typically eye movements, sounds, or tapping, EMDR gently activates both sides of the brain while you hold a difficult memory in mind. This allows the brain to do what it naturally wants to do: process the experience, reduce its charge, and file it away as something that happened, rather than something that is still happening.

  • EMDR therapy doesn't start with reprocessing. Before we go anywhere near difficult memories, we spend time in a preparation phase that is a meaningful and often substantial part of the work in itself.

    This involves a thorough assessment of what you're carrying, what's happened, how it's showing up now, and what we're working toward. From there, we do memory mapping, which is the process of identifying the specific memories, experiences, or beliefs that are most relevant to what's happening for you in the present. Trauma rarely exists as a single isolated event. Memory mapping helps us understand the landscape before we start moving through it.

    We also do resourcing work. This is about building your internal capacity to stay regulated when difficult material surfaces. That might look like developing a sense of a safe or calm place you can return to, strengthening your connection to a felt sense of safety in your body, or practicing containment skills that help you manage what comes up between sessions.

    The preparation phase looks different for everyone. Some people come to EMDR having already done significant therapeutic work. They arrive with good self-awareness, solid coping strategies, and a readiness to move into processing relatively quickly. For others, the preparation phase takes weeks or even months, and that is not a detour. It is the work. We do not begin processing sessions until you are genuinely ready, and I won't rush that.

  • When we do begin reprocessing, you'll be guided to bring a specific memory to mind, along with the belief about yourself it carries and where you feel it in your body. You don't need to narrate everything out loud. The processing happens largely within you.

    For telehealth sessions, I use a program called Bilateral Base, which runs directly through your screen. You follow a moving stimulus visually while holding the memory in mind. Sets of this are followed by brief check-ins where I'll ask what's coming up, and then we continue. Most people find this less confronting than they expected.

    Over the course of a session, the memory tends to shift. Its emotional charge reduces. What felt vivid and present begins to settle into the past, where it belongs. And because you're already at home when your nervous system is integrating the work, there's no commute to manage, no waiting room to sit in. You can rest, be still, or simply make a cup of tea when we're done.

  • EMDR is best known as a trauma therapy, and it is exceptionally effective for that. But it is also used for anxiety, phobias, grief, chronic shame, and experiences that don't fit neatly into the category of trauma but have stayed with you in ways that are hard to explain. If something from your past still feels present in your body or your reactions, EMDR may be worth exploring.

  • Progress in EMDR doesn't always look linear. Some sessions feel significant; others feel quieter. What tends to happen over time is that memories which once felt activating begin to lose their grip. What happened to you doesn't disappear, but it no longer has the same pull on your present life.

    What that looks like in practice is different for everyone. You might find that a situation which used to send you into a spiral now just feels uncomfortable, and you can move through it. You might notice that you're no longer bracing for things that haven't happened yet, or that you're not as quick to react in ways you later regret. The belief you've carried for years, that you're not safe, not enough, not worthy of care, begins to soften, not because you've talked yourself out of it, but because the memory driving it no longer carries the same charge.

    People often describe feeling lighter. Others notice that they're responding to life differently without quite being able to explain why. Some find that relationships feel easier, that they have more capacity for the present moment, that things which used to feel overwhelming now feel workable.

    EMDR is one of the most well researched trauma therapies in the world, and its effects tend to go deeper and last longer than insight alone. For many people, it reaches the places that talking simply hasn't been able to get to.

What happens in your brain during EMDR - Video

Your brain already knows how to process difficult experiences. It does it every night during REM sleep. EMDR works by tapping into exactly that same mechanism. Watch this short video to understand how.

About EMDR Therapy

The evidence for EMDR is robust and well-established, with the World Health Organization, Phoenix Australia, and the Australian Psychological Society all recognising it as an effective, frontline treatment for PTSD.

Real People. Real Results.

EMDR isn’t fringe. Some of the most high-profile people in the world have spoken openly about it, and what they’ve shared cuts right to the heart of what makes this therapy different from anything they’ve tried before.

Sandra Bullock
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After a stalker broke into her home in 2014, Sandra Bullock developed PTSD and couldn’t explain why she’d suddenly burst into tears when glancing left while driving. What pushed her to act was simple: “I’m a single parent, and this child is going to absorb nothing but fear and trauma and shame from me… I don’t want to drop that load of baggage onto my beautiful child.” She called EMDR the most healing thing she’d ever done.

Miley Cyrus
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In a New York Times interview, Miley described a single EMDR session that used a floatback technique, bringing her not just to her own pain, but to generational trauma she had been carrying for her mother. She traced her performance anxiety back through her own childhood and into her mother’s experience of adoption, uncovering a core feeling “I just want them to love me so bad” and realising it wasn’t even hers to carry. She has called EMDR therapy life-saving.

Jameela Jamil
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Jameela Jamil has openly credited EMDR with saving her life. Struggling with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and PTSD, she shared her experience publicly on Instagram and YouTube, emphasising that seeking help is neither shameful nor embarrassing. In her own words, EMDR “goes right to the core of the problem” removing the conditioning of irrational thought rather than just talking around it.

What these stories have in common

These aren’t people who couldn’t cope. They’re high performers carrying hidden weight, the kind that shows up in the body, in relationships, in the patterns you can’t break no matter how much you understand them. That’s exactly what EMDR is built to reach.

Brainspotting - Your Questions, answered

Brainspotting is less well known than EMDR, but for many people it is the more profound experience. If you're curious about what it actually involves and whether it might be right for you, explore below.

  • Brainspotting is based on the discovery that where you look affects how you feel. More specifically, that there are particular positions in your visual field that correspond to areas of activation in the brain and body where unprocessed trauma or difficult experience is being held.

    When we find one of these positions, called a brainspot, and hold your gaze there while staying attuned to what's happening in your body, the brain begins to access and process material that is often outside conscious awareness. Unlike therapies that rely heavily on talking through what happened, Brainspotting works beneath the level of language. It accesses the deeper subcortical parts of the brain where trauma is actually stored, rather than the thinking, narrating parts that we typically engage in conversation.

  • As with EMDR, we don't move into processing until you're ready. The preparation phase involves getting a clear picture of what you're carrying, understanding how it's showing up in your life now, and building your capacity to stay with difficult material when it surfaces.

    We do resourcing work, which might include developing a felt sense of safety in your body, identifying what calm or okayness feels like for you physically, and building containment skills for what arises between sessions. We also spend time mapping what we'll be working with, so that when we do begin, there's a clear and considered direction.

    How long this takes varies considerably from person to person. Some people arrive already well resourced and move into processing relatively quickly. Others need more time in preparation, and that time is not wasted. It is foundational to everything that follows.

  • Once we begin processing, you'll be invited to bring your attention to something you're holding. That might be a specific memory, a feeling, a physical sensation, or a belief about yourself that you know is there but can't quite shift. We'll identify where you feel it most strongly in your body, and give it a charge rating so we have a sense of where we're starting.

    From there, we find your brainspot. This involves slowly scanning your visual field until we locate the eye position that most activates the experience you're holding. You might notice that your gaze landing in a particular spot causes something to shift in your body, an increase in sensation, emotion, or simply a sense of something being there. That's the spot we work with.

    Once we've found it, you hold your gaze there. I stay present with you throughout, tracking what's happening and holding the space while your brain and nervous system do the processing. There is no script, no protocol you need to follow, and very little you need to say. You might notice images, memories, emotions, physical sensations, or seemingly unrelated thoughts arising. All of it is part of the process. You follow whatever comes up internally while keeping your gaze on the brainspot.

    Check-ins happen periodically, where I'll ask what you're noticing, and then we continue. The session closes with a return to your body, a check on where the charge is now, and some grounding before we finish.

    Most people find that more happens beneath the surface than they expected. The processing is largely internal and often continues in the days following a session, with shifts becoming apparent gradually rather than all at once.

  • Brainspotting is effective for trauma, anxiety, grief, chronic shame, and experiences that have resisted other approaches. It is particularly well suited to people who find talk therapy useful but feel there is something deeper that words haven't been able to reach. It also tends to work well for people who find EMDR's more structured protocol difficult to tolerate, as Brainspotting is generally more gentle and less directive.

    Because it works beneath conscious awareness, it can access material that the thinking mind has kept protected, defended, or simply couldn't articulate. If you've spent years understanding your experience intellectually without it shifting at a felt level, Brainspotting may be worth exploring.

  • Brainspotting can be subtle. Sessions don't always feel dramatic in the moment, but the processing continues after you leave, and changes often become apparent in the days that follow. People notice that something has shifted without always being able to pinpoint exactly when or how.

    Over time, the experiences we work on tend to lose their charge. A memory that once felt raw or present begins to settle. A pattern of responding that felt automatic starts to soften. Many people describe a growing sense of ease in their body, a quietening of the background noise that they had come to think of as just the way they were.

    Brainspotting doesn't require you to relive what happened in detail or find the right words for something that may have never had words. It simply asks you to be present with your own experience while your nervous system does what it is designed to do.

  • Brainspotting is not currently recognised under Medicare, which means sessions are not eligible for a rebate. EMDR, by contrast, does attract a Medicare rebate when provided by a registered psychologist under a Mental Health Care Plan from your GP. If cost is a consideration in deciding between the two approaches, this is worth factoring in. I'm happy to talk through the options with you before you book.

A Look Inside a Brainspotting Session

How do I choose between EMDR and Brainspotting?

Choosing between EMDR and Brainspotting is something we can explore together. Both are powerful pathways and either can support you in reaching your goals for therapy.

EMDR


Follows a structured eight phase model

Works best when there is a specific memory, experience or belief you want to target

Involves more dialogue and verbal check ins throughout the session

Uses bilateral stimulation through eye movements, tapping or auditory sounds

You will explore the images, emotions, beliefs and body sensations connected to the memory

Builds safety and trust gradually before moving into deeper processing


Brainspotting


More open and less structured, largely led by you

You don't need a specific memory to begin, we can start with a feeling or sensation in the body

Much less talking during the session

Uses a fixed eye position, sometimes with bilateral music

Works deeply with body sensation and somatic experience

You don't need to share your full story for it to be effective


Frequently asked questions:

  • No. While both therapies are well known for their work with trauma, they are equally effective for anxiety, depression, low self worth, relationship patterns, and anything else that feels stuck. If something is causing you distress and it hasn't shifted through other approaches, these therapies are worth exploring.

  • No, and this is one of the things people are often most relieved to hear. Both EMDR and Brainspotting work below the level of words. You don't need to narrate your story in detail for the processing to happen. In Brainspotting especially, very little talking is required at all. You are welcome to share as much or as little as feels right for you.

  • Both therapies involve accessing difficult material, so it is important that you have enough capacity to stay grounded when things get uncomfortable. This is something we assess carefully before beginning any processing. If we need to spend more time building that foundation first, we will. There is no rush, and that preparation work is part of the therapy, not a delay to it.

  • Description text goes hereThis varies enormously from person to person and depends on what you are working on, how long it has been held in the body, and how your nervous system responds. Some people notice significant shifts in just a few sessions. Others do deeper work over a longer period. We will check in regularly and you will always have a clear sense of where we are and where we are heading.

  • Item descriptionMost people feel a little tender or tired after a processing session, and that is completely normal. The work continues after you leave, and your nervous system may keep integrating for a day or two. This is why doing sessions via telehealth can be so helpful. You are already at home, and you can rest, be still, or simply give yourself some quiet time rather than having to hold yourself together to get somewhere.

  • You don't need clear or detailed memories for either of these therapies to work. Brainspotting in particular can begin with just a feeling or a sensation in the body, with no specific memory required at all. The brain and body hold what they hold, and we work with whatever is present.

  • Possibly, yes, and here is why. Most traditional therapies work primarily through language and insight. They can be genuinely helpful, but they have limits. EMDR and Brainspotting work with the parts of the nervous system that talking doesn't easily reach. If you understand yourself well but something still hasn't shifted, that gap is exactly where these therapies tend to do their best work.

  • Absolutely. Anxiety is often the nervous system's way of signalling that something unresolved is still being carried. It doesn't require a single dramatic event to explain it. Both therapies work well with the underlying activation that drives anxiety, whatever its origins, and many people find lasting relief where other approaches have only offered management.

  • It varies. Some people experience strong emotions or physical sensations moving through them. Others feel surprisingly calm, almost like nothing much is happening, and then notice real shifts in the days that follow. Both are normal. You don't need to have a big emotional release for the therapy to be working. Trust the process, and trust that your nervous system knows what it is doing.

  • For EMDR, I use a program called Bilateral Base which runs directly through your screen, delivering bilateral stimulation visually so you can follow it from wherever you are. For Brainspotting, I guide you to find and hold your gaze on a specific point, which works just as effectively on screen as it does in person. Many clients actually prefer working this way. You are in your own environment, which often supports a greater sense of safety, and you can move straight into rest after the session rather than having to drive home.

  • Websites

    Books

    • The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. The most accessible starting point for understanding how trauma lives in the body and why approaches like EMDR work. Widely read and highly recommended.

    • Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change by David Grand. Written by the founder of Brainspotting, this is the go-to book for understanding what it is and how it works.

    • Getting Past Your Past by Francine Shapiro. Written by the founder of EMDR, this is a practical and readable guide for people wanting to understand the approach before beginning.

    Podcasts

    • Let's Talk EMDR by the EMDR International Association. Accessible episodes covering how EMDR works and what clients can expect.

    • Therapy Chat with Laura Reagan. Covers EMDR, Brainspotting and somatic approaches in a warm, conversational style that is easy to listen to as a newcomer.